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Why it Hurts so Badly to be Misgendered, and How to Avoid Accidentally Doing it

For trans people, being misgendered is a painful and harrowing experience, and the psychology behind why may not be as simple as one might assume. In this piece I run a hypothetical and use colorful examples to illustrate what it’s like, and hopefully inspire effort amongst everyone, trans or cis, to be conscious and compassionate in the face of a world in which gender identity is no longer guaranteed to be externally observable.

The Cis Person's Guide to What it's Like to be Trans

Imagine that one day you wake up looking very much like you do now except in the opposite gender. If you're a cis female, imagine you look in the mirror and see someone who looks like they could be your brother looking back at you. If you're a cis male, imagine you look like a female version of yourself. Now imagine knowing it's permanent.

It's so important that we're able to empathize with and understand each other in this world of chaos and insanity. We are all brothers and sisters trying to survive and find happiness, and both of those things would come so much more easily for all of us if we were able to locate and focus on common ground. If you're with me, read on and let's see if we can bridge the gap.